sexta-feira, abril 12, 2019

"When a dream is really important to a person, it finds a way to accomplish it, which at first seemed impossible." (Nido Qubein (Lebanese-American businessman)

"When a dream is really important to a person, it finds a way to accomplish it, which at first seemed impossible." (Nido Qubein (Lebanese-American businessman)

 The truth is that by cultivating a relationship with ourselves, which is sometimes very difficult, is what allows us to show ourselves fully in our own lives, regardless of what our "relationship status" is with another person. In reality, what almost always appears to us as difficult to attain, is that we do not need to let our relationship (or lack of relationship) dictate how we live our lives, or the way we treat ourselves on a daily basis .

Nowadays, we are accustomed to constantly criticize ourselves. In a way, we are told that we must be demanding with ourselves, think of our actions so as not to be ashamed and, above all, to achieve results.

So we can say that self-criticism is the favorite path to success. We rarely think of showing any kindness to us, for if we do, we are concerned that we are considered selfish or even arrogant.

The reality is that self-criticism has invaded whether we want or not the center of our work, both professional and personal. Anyone can practice anytime, anywhere. I believe it is one of the most valuable and supportive practices we can add to our lives. This totally changes the way we show ourselves by not trying to get rid of what is difficult, but by the way we treat ourselves in the midst of this difficult situation. However, it is necessary to have a lot of attention, since there are already several studies that have shown that self-criticism can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety and even depression.

"There are few who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts." The world as we create it is a process of our thinking. It can not be changed without changing our thinking. " (Albert Einstein)

Not everyone will be able to access or meet their needs in the way that we want them to be met or met. Not everyone will be able to fill the role we wish to fill. And not everyone will be able to take care of us, respond or support us in the exact way we want at all times. This does not mean that people are not able to change or that things can not be resolved; it just means that sometimes others may not fit into the exact role we would like them to fit at all times ... not everyone can be who we think we should be, who we want them to be, or who we expect them to be they are. Having the ability to stop having these ideas about others, being who we want them to be, is indeed quite difficult, but not so difficult when we feel the resentment, frustration, disappointment and even anger that sometimes gives us the feeling that accompany people and even our own expectations, which may or may not have any viability for people at that time. When we accept that others may not be able to find us the way we want at all times, we can be creating boundaries and creating more space for those who can integrate into our social contact area. On the other hand, it also allows us to be free from the responsibility of being everything to everyone at all times and accepting that there is differentiation of attitudes and behaviors. It is not our job to "shape people" exactly in what we want or need them to be; our functional and relational attitude is to allow people to be who they are and to learn the healthy limits so that we can be who we are as well, not always waiting for others to change when they have not even integrated our lives.

 There is no sooner or later, right time or wrong time ... Things happen when it has to happen. So never give up on your dream

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