“I know some people don't believe in dreams. But even so they come true. ”(Demi Lovato)

“I know some people don't believe in dreams. But even so they come true. ”(Demi Lovato)

“Living is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist. ”(Oscar Wilde)

The problem is that life is not just made of good times, and negative experiences can turn into limiting beliefs, which will later hinder our growth. As the poet Mário Quintana used to say: “To live is to cherish dreams and hopes, making faith our greatest inspiration. It is looking for little things, a great reason to be happy! ”
As we all know, what doesn't always happen once we lose our health is too late. Health brings with it a freedom that few people realize until they no longer have it. As an Australian nurse named Bronnie Ware, who works in palliative care, caring for patients in their last weeks of life, many people realize only in the end that happiness is really a matter of choice and so they would like it. of having been happier: "The fear of change made them pretend to others and to themselves that they were pleased when, deep down, all they wanted was to laugh and have more joyous moments."
First of all, it is important to note that when I am talking about beliefs in this context, I am not talking about religion, but about our inner beliefs about ourselves - and these can be divided into limiting beliefs and enabling beliefs. Beliefs are the consequence of all that you have ever seen, heard, and concluded, and have become an absolute truth. They consist of hereditary beliefs acquired in childhood, social beliefs imposed by the media or society, and personal beliefs created from personal experiences. To paraphrase Oscar Wilde: “If we knew how many and how often our words are misunderstood, there would be much more silence in this world.” Everything that individuals do is a result of their beliefs, which is why people act differently in different ways. identical situations. Maybe it's time to take a moment to think about the beliefs that have influenced your life. If you look at the people who you feel are fulfilled, you will find that they are not conditioned by limiting beliefs and only listen to the enabling ones: “if I want, I can”, “I have money for the essentials”, “I deserve better” “I have to fight to get it” etc. but, not forgetting that the most important thing is to have “down to earth”, act with reason, instead of only with the heart. ”It is difficult to fight against desire; he gets everything he wants, even if he watches his soul.
Sometimes it becomes very difficult to change our beliefs, but this is critical for us to change our behaviors and live new experiences. Do we all remember the first time we rode a bicycle? And that was something we thought was extremely difficult - almost impossible, I would say! It suddenly became almost natural, and never forgot how to pedal. If you have any questions, get back on a bike, even if you haven't done so for a long time. You will realize that once we change a limiting belief into a enabling belief, everything becomes possible. We have to believe in ourselves, because the will to fight is worthless if you have the thought that you will not succeed. The challenge is that we can easily feel that we must know how to take care of everything we are feeling on our own. I fully believe in personal responsibility, capacity and what we can do for ourselves. What I don't believe is that it is enough. None of us intended to spend our lives alone. We need to relate and have human support. All of us without exception. “… A man has to have anything to attach to, anything he can be sure to find there in the morning.” (John Steinbeck)